Are You Not Good Enough?
Sumaira FH Published February 07, 2017 | 12:18 PM
“What if I am wrong?”
He didn’t want to study social science; he wanted to be an engineer. He and his parents had been planning his life and his career since he was 11.He couldn’t bear the look of disappointment on his father’s face when his letter of rejection stared at him mockingly from his father’s hands.
Constant failure can cause defeatism, low self-esteem and depression. -Theodore Kaczynski
Remember all the time when you know the answer to the question your teacher asks in class but you don’t raise your hand afraid you might be wrong or the fear that your classmates might laugh at you? Or the times when you couldn’t grasp a point but you didn’t ask questions in class and hesitated because you might be ridiculed afterwards.
Such mundane habits what harm could it cause?
So word of advice: Stop comparing yourselves to others because it effects your self-esteem and you deem yourself as an under achiever. As the example stated above in the start of the article shows Ali’s parents remarking about and comparing how his peers and cousins scored better than him.
That led Ali to think that he cannot and never will be able to do better than them. Hence the thought “I am not good enough”. • Say No to self-affirmations and positive pep talk: Before that surprised look on the reader’s face comes into my mind I would encourage you to read further.
You have always heard about how one should walk up in the morning and chant “I am beautiful” with their heads hung low and still in bed. You would reckon you’d actually stop caring if you wear size 6 instead of 2.
Psychological studies done in 90’s in attempt to cure low self-esteem among students have shown that those who wrote down positive thoughts about themselves had a sky rocketed advance in their mood towards sadness and delinquency.
That doesn’t mean that you should deny the positivity and affirmative prospect of life from the root. The conclusive argument presented at this aforementioned study was that it would be better for the person to come to terms with his Inner Critic and point out the “could’s” and “couldn’t”s
Judgment on the account of sentimental regarding parents or well-wishers is untouched. Parents wish well for their kids and think they are helping their child when they say “Excellent job” on a B grade test.
It usually backfires because the child (who needs it the most due to low self-esteem) would feel that he always has to do an excellent job on his test and feel pressured for it. So much written above defies our common knowledge about self-image and esteem that this ignorance has lead us to improbable and incomprehensible dilemma every teen of our age has to go through every day.
Some suggestions would not be enough if the layman does not take initiative:
One must control the hours they spend around on social networking sites and engage themselves in healthy and positive activities.
Help your friend do her homework or you could teach your brother how to play cricket next time and see the results! In a nutshell, we are our own hero. Loving one’s own skin and feeling the need to put ourselves first sometimes in not vanity.
Preach individuality, self-love with exclusion of narcissism and self-assurance that can only come by if we take our inner demons,stop self-sabotaging and start taking the hardest but the first step in our lives before it’s too late and yes you are as good as you will ever be.
I am only one, but I am one.I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do. ― Edward Everett Hale
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