Women Are Not Doomed If They Are Not Married: Zara Peerzada Urges People To Stop Asking Shadi Questions

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Women are not doomed if they are not married: Zara Peerzada urges people to stop asking shadi questions

Model Zara Peerzada pointed out that she was confronted with “when are you getting married?” question 17 times in just five days.

Islamabad (UrduPoint / Pakistan Point News – 18th April, 2019) In Pakistani society, woman who are not married by an ‘appropriate’ age are often confronted with shadi and rishta questions.

Seldom do people realise that these questions make women uncomfortable and this is not their place to ask.

Model Zara Peerzada has pointed out to this very important issue, stating that she was confronted with “when are you getting married?” question 17 times in just five days.

Taking to Instagram, the model wrote a detailed note about the struggle of being a young unmarried woman in Pakistani society.

“This week was exhausting. Minimal sleep, maximum discomfort, anxiety on fleek (On fleek? Are people still saying that? I hope not). This week, in a span of 5 days, I was asked when I’m getting married 17 times. Not that this in any way is a novel occurrence for the Pakistani woman. I would say, even taking fashion week into account - 17 times is a bit excessive,” she began.

“The ‘when’ always turns into a ‘why aren’t you?’ - to which, I’ve realised there is no correct response (“I’m not ready”, being the worst),” Zara continued.

This question, she says, is just a prelude to the inevitable ‘let me reinforce everything society’s told you, in case you missed the memo about The Doom of the Unmarried’ (distributed weekly) spiel masked in concern, loosely laced with horror.

“They are met with this cocked head and blank stare. Why is marriage my only goal, or the only one anyone is interested in?” she asked.

The model then urged the people to stop making women feel like they’re underachieved or doomed because they are not married.

She went on to say, “Stop making women feel like they’re falling behind or missing out. Stop making women feel like this is something they need to be happy. Stop thinking there’s something wrong with women who aren’t married."

"Stop reminding them that you’re watching. Stop assuming they’re unhappy. Stop assuming that even if they are, they want to talk to you about it. Stop asking women things that are none of your god damn business," Zara added.